What Women Want

Wondering what to get your mom, wife, grandmother, daughter or mother-in-law for Mother’s Day – flowers, chocolate, or maybe a pedicure? Why not give her what she really wants? Unveil her beauty.

As John Eldredge writes in “Wild at Heart” and expands on in the companion book, “Captivating,” which he wrote with his wife, Stasi:

“Every woman yearns to be fought for….She wants to be more than noticed – she wants to be wanted. She wants to be pursued.

Every woman also wants an adventure to share. ‘I want to be…pursued, fought for – yes. But also, I want to be strong and a part of the adventure.’

Every woman wants to have a beauty to unveil….a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day, or twirling skirts, those flowing dresses that were perfect for spinning around in. She’ll put her pretty dress on, come into the living room and twirl. What she longs for is to capture her daddy’s delight….‘Do you see me?’ asks the heart of every girl. ‘And are you captivated by what you see?’

The world kills a woman’s heart when it tells her to [only] be tough, efficient, and independent….a Christian woman is…tired. All we’ve offered the feminine soul is pressure to ‘be a good servant.’ No one is fighting for her heart, there is no grand adventure to be swept up in, and every woman doubts very much that she has any beauty to unveil.”

Every woman is beautiful in the eyes of God. He intentionally and relentlessly pursues each daughter of Eve. He longs for us to put on the wedding clothes he offers, the garment of His grace, the robe of Christ’s righteousness. “For he has clothed me with garments of salvation, and arrayed me in a robe of his righteousness….the Lord will take delight in you…as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you.” Isaiah 61:10; 62:4-5.

Reveal to the women in your life their beauty. Regardless of their age or physical appearance, through your eyes, help them to see the best of their beautiful souls. Cover over their imperfections not with concealer, but with your love. Choose not to take up offense, but to give them the benefit of the doubt. By your words and with your actions, demonstrate to the women God has placed in your life that they are beautiful, that you are happy to share life’s adventures with them and that you will fight for them.  Point your women to the Bridegroom who delights in them – Jesus.

This Mother’s Day, choose to be a lifegiver and unveil the beauty of a woman’s soul to her.

(And if you are my child, may I also suggest pairing that gift with a bottle of Bath and Body Works lotion?)





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